“What type of people do you call friends?”
This is just a statement for those that care to read it. It’s another insight into “me”.
It’s an expression of my “opinion and perspective”.
“Oh.. and I don’t really care what you think about it”.
Look a little deeper into the type of people that I call friends, where do you fit?
You’ll come to realize that those of you that fall into that category are unique, strong willed, independent, intelligent, open-minded, spiritual, compassionate and have a strong desire to live life to it’s fullest.
Each of you have multiple talents, knowledge and the desire to learn more, backed by the desire to do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done.
Although we don’t always agree on the facts of a given situation you have the ability to listen, express and evaluate varied viewpoints. You always have a plan “B”. You don’t let the reality of modern society keep you down, you always find some light in a dark room.
Others I’ve “attempted” to be-friend have some of the same great qualities, but because of past circumstances, they “cannot or choose not” to develop their strengths, choosing instead to remain a victim of their own circumstance, holding onto anger, frustration and outdated belief structures.
Their nature as “emotional vampires” quickly becomes evident and attempting to help those people weakens the spirit. Trying to find the key to help them unlock their “true abilities” can’t be achieved when they keep moving the key… they see no need to advance their mental progress or social network.
They become weak, guarded, suspicious, reclusive, self-absorbed, non-communicative, obsessive, habitual and controlling by diffusion.
They reinforce their circumstance through seclusion and a “perceived or created” self-importance, using their education, career, illness, relationships, social issues or special-interest groups to reinforce their feelings of worth and cause. They become “obsessive” to their chosen cause or causes, believing that without their intervention, the situation would spiral out of control. They ignore their issues by absorbing themselves in the problems of others to gain self worth and stay grounded in the family and friendship arena.
They sacrifice relationships, friendships and opportunities in all aspects of their lives. Their actions, ( or lack thereof ) are the mirror image of a substance abuser, an addict or alcoholic.
Their behavior is self-justified and self-fulfilling, having no need for external reinforcement of their self-worth.
For those people, I have limited time and effort to spend. If they can’t let go of their “comfort zone”.
An then there are the “educated“.
These are the people that have been taught by “corrupt educational systems” and “damaged parenting“, to view the world as they have been taught, (told).
They are bound by the directions dictated by what they see in front of them and base their decision making on the social parameters of the past.
They are intelligent individuals, but can barely function outside of their security “box”. They want to debate and analyze the “why“, inhibiting them from “seeing”, because their debate and analysis reinforce their core belief, therefore making them rigid in their acceptance to “see”. They always have a, “but” to fall back on and continually refer to the “quotes” of their favorite support. Numbers, dates and statistics are their “mental taser” when the discussion goes treads beyond their boundry of debate.
Again for those people, I have limited time and effort to spend.